For a beautiful beginning
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well hello lovely humans today we are gonna talk about 12 things that your guests don’t give up one fart in space about the whole reason that you’re getting married is because you want to spend the rest of your life together and the whole reason that you’re having a wedding is because you want to celebrate that story and you also want to share that story with all of your close family and friends that means for most people throwing the best party you’ve ever thrown in your entire life however there are certain areas that a lot of people tend to go overboard in I’m one of them I definitely went overboard in at least three of these areas if not more I’m not saying that you can’t not do these things but I am saying that your guests don’t care at all about any of the items I’m about to list off sorry number one your invitations I mean you have this great moment where they open the envelope and they see it and it’s beautiful and some people they throw it up on their fridge for a little bit but most people the invitation goes straight to the trash I’ve been there where I’ve seen an invitation for a wedding and thought oh my gosh this is so pretty oh they did such a great job okay iris you pee their trash and think what I do for a living like you’d think that I’d hang on to this a little bit longer I don’t I don’t they go in the trash just like everybody else’s do number two programs like why why I mean you don’t need to give people an outline of events and you don’t need to have it printed and set out at every single seat it takes a lot of time it takes a lot of money you have to design them and print them someone else to set them out it’s a lot of steps for something that someone may clutch on to for five minutes so they have to avoid conversation with the person sitting next to them but it’s really not going to provide them with a whole lot of real information they’re gonna remember for the rest of the day and again that piece of paper goes straight into the trash so is it really worth it coming up number three escort cards nobody cares they don’t that no one cares about escort cards specifically and while it is really cool and really unique and really intentional to have a calligrapher hand do each and every escort card and have these cute little placeholders and everyone seats no one will walk home well no one will walk home from your event but no one will leave your event going those were the most beautiful place cards I’ve ever seen I never seen such beautiful place cards that’s likely not gonna happen unless they’re engraved with gold or there’s you know painted on the butterfly’s wings you’re gonna have to go really really far I do wait for escort cards sleeve any sort of a lasting impact instead what you can do is make a really really large seating chart that guests can refer to throughout the evening to try to figure out where they’re going same can be said of the program if you want to do those two things in fact it I mean I recommend that you do a seating chart but escort cards are definitely definitely not a thing that you need to be worrying about just do a big seating chart and it’ll be a lot easier number four guestbook I know I know don’t get mad but it’s true and you could probably ask a lot of your friends that have gotten married recently I was gonna help fold their guest book is lose it’s like mine or most the weddings that I happen to work it’s gonna be over halfway full this is a super-duper traditional thing that we have done for I don’t know how long but a lot of times unless you put the guest book in front of someone’s face they’re not going to sign it and you’re gonna leave with a half-filled books that you may or may not want to put on your coffee table and you may or may not look at some time in the future sure if it has photos in it um it’s from a photo booth or something printed with your engagement photos from beforehand that’ll be something you’ll look back on a little bit more than just a book with a bunch of signatures we can think about it how often do you look at your old yearbooks never this thing in sixth grade was bad I don’t I don’t go back on that no no no so guest book I mean maybe but nobody signs it and then no one looks at it so um maybe don’t do it number five linens nobody cares about Linens it’s not gonna make a lasting impact on what their view of your wedding day is unless they are sequined tablecloths on absolutely every table that maybe half the guests will notice it’s really not worth it just stick with the traditional white go floor-length don’t go shorter than four lengths because it just flips tacky to see table legs but go with the traditional white or ivory or maybe do a soft color but stick with the base price ones because it’s really really not worth it it makes no lasting effect on your wedding day and guests aren’t gonna walk away again like they would with butterfly painted escort cards they’re not gonna walk away with some sort of lasting thought about what your linens look like save the money save the time it’s not worth it number six first dance okay let me qualify this for just a sec it’s not that your guests don’t care about the first dance because watching you two dance for the very first time is something really precious and I actually probably cry at almost every single first dance that I witness I’m a goob about first dances I love them what guests don’t care about however is if it’s choreographed or if it’s the full song so don’t stress about it don’t spend months practicing with some Latin ballroom dance teacher in shoes that make you want to shoot yourself just get out there and sway back and forth for half the song and smile and let people celebrate in that with you it doesn’t need to be perfect it doesn’t need to be practiced just be you number seven slideshows honestly after sitting through three to five toasts the last thing that a guest wants to do is sit through a five to ten minute slideshow it’s just not interesting for them or it’s just more important to you than it is to them and there may be special moments throughout the slideshow that captured their attention but if they’ve already been sitting through 20 plus minute of speeches and you want to tack on another ten minutes that’s a lot to expect of a guest who’s just anxious for the party to get going so keep that in mind when you start to put all those photos together maybe to a section where you have a bunch of childhood photos that people can go peruse if they choose to or if you really want to do a slideshow set up a slideshow area that guests can go visit if they’re interested but don’t make everybody sit through a 10 minute long slideshow that has pictures from both of you from infancy to awkward adolescence to when you met each other and dating it’s beautiful it’s great it celebrates your love story but your guests are bored get them on the dance floor number eight open seating don’t do open seating it’s awful because then they have to figure out who they’re sitting next to and let’s say they get a group of five at a table of eight and then awesome there’s three chairs left over who’s gonna sit there is there a special group of three that’s just gonna happen to be able to converse with this group of five and they’re gonna create a perfect even group of eight probably not gonna happen we worked in event once where there was open seating and I won’t do it again I will not do it again because there was this poor family of six it was a mom a dad and six kids and some of them were so young that they shouldn’t be left at another table but they were too old to be sitting on their parents laps so we needed a specific table just for them we talked to the venue we talked to the bride they’re gonna charge an additional fee we put one together it doesn’t have a centerpiece and the linen didn’t match but we put a table together turn to go get them turn back around and someone else had already filled up the table with five people great awesome okay so then we had to put together a second table again with the wrong linen no centerpiece additional charge to the bride and groom and I had to have an assistant camp out at that table to make sure that that family got there and no one else jacked their seats open seating is like anxiety in a bucket if that’s such a thing I don’t know you know what I’m saying it causes people to freak out and get all sweaty about who they’re gonna sit next to guests don’t like open seating they don’t care about it give them a seat maybe not a specific one but give them a table it’s gonna make everything go so much more smoothly number nine cake guests don’t care about a seven tiered cake they just don’t in fact guests would prefer to have a dessert table with a bunch of dessert instead of a seven tier cake that has fondant on the outside of it that tastes like the bottom of someone’s shoe and no offense to anyone who actually enjoys the taste of fondant but I haven’t met anybody who does it is like a weird combination of rubber and gum and it has like a sugar eNOS to it but nobody actually enjoys that instead opt for something like a dessert table that has three to five desserts something chocolatey something sweet something with berries in it of lemon bar I don’t know go for more of a dessert table that guests will actually be excited about and invested in because then you’re more likely to please all these different tastes instead of this giant monstrosity of a gorgeous gorgeous wedding cake that most people won’t eat I’m not a person and you probably won’t see me eatin cake at your wedding day one cuz I’m working and that would be tacky and too cuz I don’t like cake so instead go for something more of a dessert table and that will be sure to tickle a lot more fancies number ten bouquet toss you don’t have to do one especially if you’re feeling awkward or uncomfortable or on the fence about it no one will leave your event going man we didn’t do a bouquet toss that was awful I’m so bummed out they let us just keep dancing on the dance floor and bugging and their deejay was so great and you just let us dance instead of stopping for bouquet toss where all of the single ladies get to parade out there and show their singleness to the world it’s like single Awareness Day but for a bunch of eyes to see this is great no nobody cares you don’t need to do a bouquet to us or a garter toss for that matter to if it makes you uncomfortable if it makes your fiance uncomfortable honestly no one will miss it and no one will be upset that you didn’t do it number eleven wedding favors if I had a nickel for every event that I worked that there were a bunch of favors left over afterwards I would have a nickel for every event that I’ve worked I cannot tell you how often this happens a bride and a groom will go out of their way and create something really sweet really cute handmade artists in blah blah blah and get it all put together and put a H seat or put in a table before the guests leave and there are a ton left over at the end of the night if if I can find the footage I will insert some footage here from an event that we worked recently where the bride had a bunch of succulents and had them at each place setting with people’s name tags in them for them to take and they still left a ton of them at the end of the night when I tell you that people leave favors look at all of these favors now I know people is still in the dance floor and they may come back for them but likely they’re not going to look at all these savor savor savor savor savor savor favorite favorite honestly people are not gonna come back to them I may or may not have like five of them in my house now but most people forget them they just do and see you spend all of your time making this sweet intentional artisanal gift to give to everyone and a lot of them get left behind and that sucks so instead if you really really feel like doing something even leave a little tag at each place setting saying in lieu of favors we decided to donate to 11 above every Baba and list your favorite charity or skip it altogether because again most guests won’t leave your event going oh I didn’t find any favorites do you find any favorites I’m man it’s not gonna happen they’re not gonna know people forget them people are not aware of them so put your time and energy elsewhere number 12 grand exit guests are not invested in the grand exit what they’re invested in is you guys so when it comes to whether you want to use sparklers or bubbles or ribbons the guests don’t care about the grand exit they don’t care about lining up they don’t care about having the photographer’s yell at them to smile and wave what they care about is you guys so don’t stress about those details it’s just not worth hey there are plenty of other areas that you can invest your time energy money blood sweat and tears into other than these twelve items that most people aren’t going to care about so there you have it twelve things that your guests don’t give a flying start and space about you’re welcome no but really spend your time energy money everything blood sweat and tears elsewhere because at the end of the day these twelve items really don’t build up your love story and they don’t make for an amazing or epic guest experience they’re just extras so instead your time Manan Minardi your time and monarchy elsewhere I don’t know what is wrong with me people you know come to me for advice and I use worth like mutter gee I’m an embarrassing human if you haven’t done so yet scoot on down below click like and subscribe to our channel for more tips and tricks for the modern day bride also give us a follow on our social medias reach out we love hearing from you guys and speaking of reaching out if you or someone you know about is planning a wedding have them shoot me an email or you shoot me an email just have your your other personality shoot me an email we do free initial 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