WEDDING Q&A | Advice for Brides, Planning, Budgeting & All About our Big Day!
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I’m so excited to update you on my wedding! It was fantastic getting married in St. Paul! I really had a fantastic time. If you are also getting married in St. Paul Minnesota, here is a great place to start. Today I will be answering the questions you sent me.
Like I have said before, this is most relevant to people getting married in Minnesota, so if you are reading this from somewhere else just keep that in mind.
Question 1: What was your favorite part of the wedding?
Honestly just everything the entire day I feel like the biggest thing for me and Anthony was just feeling the overwhelming amount of love that day and just knowing that everyone was there for us.
I will get into like a little bit of some advice that I have for you guys just the day of but yeah I feel like the my favorite part of the day was just like honestly the love if does that even count like feeling the love the day of. I don’t really know if that counts like my favorite part, but I mean honestly, I would say that and the moment that the barn doors opened I got married in a barn outside. You can check out the venue I will have all of my vendors listed below as well but we got married in this barn outside and as soon as they opened up the doors and I saw him that moment right there like that was indescribable it was just amazing probably one of my favorite parts of the wedding.
I mean I could literally just say the whole day and all the love that I felt what did your dad say when he saw you in your wedding dress for the first time he just smiled started to tear up and he just said Wow and then I actually when he started to tear up I said hold on I have something for you and I gave him a little handkerchief I gave my mom and my dad a handkerchief and they both had like a nice little I’ll try to post a picture right here my mom holding hers but I gave my dad his and he just started crying and I was hugging him and it was just such a special moment probably one of the first times I’ve seen my dad cry a very long time. I just I want to I want to relive it all over again.
A lot of people were asking did Anthony cry when he saw me honestly I feel like maybe he teared up he told me he teared up a little bit seeing like Bella walk down the aisle in front of me his daughter he said that you did get a little teary eyed but no he didn’t cry. I did tell him I was like I really want you to cry but he’s like if I don’t cry like don’t be upset like I just there was just the biggest smile on his face and I could just tell he was like looking at me up and down.
I re-watched the video because like there’s an iPhone video of me walking down the aisle my aunt took it so I just re-watched that a lot but yeah kind of like shows me and then pans over to him and you could just see like he was just smiling the whole time so was I like we just the lock dies and I never like looked around I just had my eyes on him the whole time walking down the aisle so he did tear up a little but no he didn’t like cry and I didn’t cry either and I actually was so surprised that I held it together walking down the aisle. I was super nervous and a lot of people were asking me like were you nervous so I’ll get that out of the way because there were so many people asking me like how was I the day of. I guess its just a Minnesota thing but I was pretty calm in in the morning I felt like fine. I was eating which is another thing I was really worried that I wasn’t going to eat or anything and that my friends are going to be like come on Maggie got to eat but I did he I had like half of a bagel a little bit of fruit I had some yogurt.
I think that’s one of the biggest things is make sure you eat the day of even though you don’t feel like you can you’re too nervous it’s so important because the day is so long and by the time you’re like done your pictures and everything you’re going to be sitting down for dinner and that’s going to be the first thing you put in your body.
I just would definitely recommend make sure you eat and I did it was so much more calm in the morning and then leading up to me doing my makeup and getting in the limo to leave that is when I was the most nervous I got a little anxious and I’ll talk about how little bit of like my skin issues leading up to the wedding oh my god it was a disaster. But I was a little nervous doing the makeup because I did have a lot of breakouts that I had to cover I had this huge cyst on my forehead which I now have a scar from I also have a scar in between the middle of like my like the bridge or my nose or in between my eyes I have a scar now but I had really bad acne that I needed to cover. I was a little stressed about that and also I’m doing my own makeup so I didn’t really put it on someone else didn’t do my makeup it was a little bit I felt a little bit more under pressure the day of because of that but I feel like the moments that I was the most nervous was in the limo and you could tell from the behind-the-scenes vlog in the limo I was just so nauseous and just it was just all nerves and butterflies. I wasn’t nervous to marry him it’s just you’re just nervous the day of like you just want everything to be perfect you want everything to go right I was nervous with the ceremony mainly, so I was nervous in the limo. I was also really nervous and like jittery before I walked into the bar like when I was walking outside with my dad about to go into the barn and walk down the aisle that’s what I was the most nervous but yeah other than that after the ceremony I was just so happy so just like carefree like I just like that was it like the ceremony was done I had nothing else to worry about.
I will get into one thing that went wrong the day of I will explain all that as well because I got a lot of questions about like did anything go wrong I was talking about that – I’m sorry I’m like all over the place right now. I need to get my head back in St. Paul!
Question 2: What were your first thoughts after seeing Anthony on the other end of the aisle?
I was just so happy I just was overjoyed so happy and just my thoughts were like this is it like we’re doing this like this is the day that I’ve been dreaming of in the place I have been dreaming of! I’m so glad we are getting married in St. Paul Minnesota.
Question 3: Do you regret not hiring a wedding planner?
I did not have a wedding planner I basically did all the planning myself with the help of my mom my mom did a lot and of course Anthony helped him as well. But I did pretty much everything on my own.
Mena’s me of course agreed on like the color scheme and we like picked out like what we wanted are like bridesmaids and groomsmen where we picked our florals together which I mean I kind of like had an idea before I have everything on Pinterest but yeah we did I did everything on my own which was a lot looking back. Do I regret it? A part of me kind of wishes that I had someone to help throughout the way just to like to relieve some of my stress because you know all the phone calls all the meetings you know everything’s like on you. You pretty much are doing it all if you don’t have a planner I also got asked if had a day off coordinator. I did not have a day of coordinator I mainly just made jobs like for like my sister and like my friends were there like every step of the way to help me like I need this I need this I need my I need you to call my hairstylist like to give me touch-ups like I heard of my friends did so much for me my bridesmaids but I also had two girls at the venue and I have to give a shout out to Shannon.
Shannon if you’re watching this I love you, you were amazing I cannot say enough good things about just a job well done you did so amazing and you seriously calmed me so much the day of she’s pretty much been with me every step of the way as far as the venue’s concerned. She was kind of like my day of girl there through the whole ceremony and reception at the venue so like I didn’t have a planner throughout the whole planning process but I did have two girls Shannon and current at the venue and Shannon was working with me from the start.
So I have to give a shout out to her but they did amazing both of them they were there every step of the way and then she hadn’t actually helped me with something that went wrong the day of which I was so grateful for her for because I almost had a little bit of a meltdown but yeah long story short do I regret not having a planner I would say no like I don’t regret anything it would have been helpful but now I know what needs to happen which is why I started this blog! Check me out at marrymeminnesota.org.
Question 4: Did you say your own personalized vows or ones by the priests?
I did get a lot of people asking about our vows if we wrote vows to each other or like how we set bail, so we just did like traditional vows like with I Megan take you Anthony to be my husband blah blah blah like that. Minnesota priests can be so boring.
It was a traditional Roman Catholic wedding in Minnesota. I am Catholic so I was Anthony a lot of people asked did we regret not getting married in the church I kind of talked all about this but we really wanted to get married in the church and we had a lot of issues with it they were super strict and because Anthony was previously married. I go into all detail about this in a blog so again that’s on my wedding playlist if you want to know like what happened throughout the process but because Anthony was married before he had to get an annulment and we were in such a short amount of time like I think 11 or 10 months planning it ever since we changed like our date so when we were talking to the church about it they really couldn’t tell us anything regarding our ceremony. They couldn’t tell us what time they couldn’t tell us like how it would go nothing until he got his annulment so it was just a lot of stress on me like I just wanted to like solidify the ceremony and how things were going to be and I couldn’t really do any of that.
Also with like florals and stuff they’re just very strict it was just a lot of the unknown and waiting for the annulment so it just didn’t work out within the time period that we had you know for our wedding so we ended up getting married at our venue in the bar and it was a religious ceremony we did have a priest he did an amazing ceremony and we were so happy with it I don’t regret not getting married in the church we are going to get our marriage blessed by the church so that is something we are going to do but I loved our ceremony and I would not have changed anything.
Question 5: Was there anything that went wrong that you thought would totally jeopardize the wedding?
Like I said there was, and I will just tell you guys a story now there was something that went wrong and that I was unhappy with. But no, it didn’t jeopardize the wedding at all it wasn’t anything like too serious like us not bringing our marriage license and not being able to have a ceremony like it wasn’t anything like that basically my florals were all messed up. I had better faith than I should have in the florists in St. Paul Minnesota.
I actually wasn’t super happy and again this is just like you guys might look at my floral pictures and stuff and you might be like oh my god they’re gorgeous what are you talking about so I will explain my florals weren’t gorgeous but there were multiple things that were completely wrong so my bouquet I wasn’t happy with. There were actual like pieces that I broke off like literally just cut off before walking down the ceremony.
Literally within like five minutes of me walking I was cutting things off my bouquet that I did not like at all I don’t know what it was but it was not what I asked for I feel like she didn’t listen to me as much and I said like over and over again this is one advice that I would give as far as florals now, not all florists in St. Paul are the same. But I do believe that florists’ kind of had the mind of their own and they like to kind of do their own thing and they’re like oh this will look pretty I was so specific on what I wanted like.
It was down to like I don’t want any roses I want these specific flowers I want this and nestled in like I was so specific on what I wanted as far as my cake, I don’t even know what the florals were on my cake now the pictures that you guys saw was it fixed. Shannon actually called my florist as soon as I walked in then you install my cake I was like what the heck is this it was nothing that I asked for and I hated it I know hates a strong word but when you have expectations and when you pay a certain amount of money for something you expect that like you have expectations right.
So I saw the cake I was so disappointed and Shannon called and had them come and redo it redo the florals and it was beautiful after they did it I loved it but again I asked specifically and I showed her pictures I had a whole Pinterest board literally Pinterest board of florals for my wedding.
Another thing was that Anthony now this is just getting like I could just tell you my florals were messed up that was it I’m just going to go into detail Anthony asked specifically that his boutonniere my dad’s and his dad’s would all be the same and the groomsmen would be a little bit different the boutonnieres were all the same none of them were distinguished between the groom the fathers or the groomsmen so that was pretty disappointing because we asked specifically that we wanted his veneers to be slightly different. I mean he’s the groom like that just makes sense right another thing was and Lauren I wasn’t crazy about the florals she also got like the mantel all messed up like I don’t even know what was on there and honestly looked like florals that should be on a casket I’m being really harsh but again I was just really disappointed everything else was like beautiful. The centerpieces were gorgeous I loved the centerpieces all the girls bouquets gorgeous I loved I asked for and I’ll show you guys pictures I asked for like a big kind of like Garland like big greenery garland kind of hanging off my sweetheart table which would be repurposed or like flip so it would be hanging on the mantel in the barn and then repurposed to the sweetheart table kind of something like this kind of something. Like this like kind of hanging off the sweetheart table not specifically these florals but you know what I mean by like the greenery kind of on the sweetheart like a big like Garland like a big garland and like hanging off my sweetheart table that is what I asked for.
It that is not what I got at all I got this like weird kind of bouquet that we ended up having to put on the floor in front of our sweetheart table and we had fake flowers on her sweetheart table now no one would have known any of this and they would have thought oh it’s beautiful but again it’s not what I asked for so I was really upset about that I really wanted these big and we had like lanterns and it would have looked so beautiful like on our sweeter table we had the Mr. and Mrs. and I wanted it kind of like. Behind the Mr. and Mrs. sign kind of flowing down the sweetheart table it’s supposed to be in the barn on the mantle fireplace big garland draping I did not get that so long story short that was the only thing that went wrong the day up was my florals I’m still really disappointed in that I ended up having like you know three in-person meetings with her like five phone calls you know it was I called her.
The week of my wedding I was like making sure she had everything correct and a lot of it was wrong so I was that was the biggest disappointment I’m going to complain just because originally we did have our florals to be cheaper than they actually were because we made a lot of changes and we ended up doing more with the centerpieces. So I feel like for the amount that we paid and what we asked for we did not get that so that was the only thing that went wrong the day of now I said like I had a little bit of a meltdown and I was upset about it and pissed off but I said multiple times I was like if this is the only thing that has gone wrong I’m okay with it I’m okay with it it’s fine it’s not the end of the world you know. Everything still looks gorgeous everything still looks beautiful certain things weren’t we asked for. So but no it didn’t jeopardize the wedding it didn’t jeopardize the day it was fine and she a negated the rescue and had her change my cake which thank freak in God she did because I was so happy with it after it was fixed.
Question 6: Did you take Anthony’s last name? What made you decide to change names or not?
Yes I did take Anthony’s last name I am now Megan Lee Morrison a lot of people think my name my last names Lee but it’s actually crow and now it’s Morrison so Megan Morrison I actually am in the process of changing my name officially but yes I did take his name and it wasn’t really any question I knew I wanted to take his name I do kind of think like oh should I be Megan Crowe Morrison but I just decided to keep Megan Lee Morrison because my middle name is like on a lot of my business stuff like I really go by Megan Lee. I don’t go by my last name so I just figured I would keep Megan Lee and change my name to Morrison.
One thing I can say because a lot of people are asking about like pricing for venues in Saint Paul Minnesota, one thing I can say is that pricing does vary obviously from vendor to vendor but also it varies from like the month and the season you get married. So, one thing was we got a really good deal with multiple of our vendors because we were having a winter wedding and it was February. February is not a very popular month I don’t think and it’s kind of like offseason which now I feel like with wedding season it’s all year long because so many people are having winter weddings now but we got really great deals on multiple of our vendors like our deejay we got a great deal because it was February our venue itself we got a good deal and we got like a different winter package which was discounted and then for our florals it was also different with like what I specifically wanted now I could have been the season and the florals that they had because of the season but I also asked for specific flowers and like my flowers I guess didn’t cost as much as like some flowers that would be in the summertime you know what I mean I think you just buried on like what was in season but yeah that’s one thing that I can say is that vendors did discount or have different pricing for different seasons at least from where I am and the others around me that was a great perk for having a winter wedding because it was kind of like off-season a lot of people are asking questions about was this dress worth it do you regret stressing as much as you did?
I don’t again I don’t regret anything but looking back the day was so perfect and I feel like all of my stress and hard work paid off I think that’s the only thing I would say I feel like it paid off I feel like I did everything I could to make the day perfect within the power I had planning it myself. I think I went a little bit crazy with the stress and you know all the moments that I was like crying about things and feeling so overwhelmed yeah I probably was being a little dramatic the day ended up being beautiful and amazing who’d I have not stressed as much probably but my hard work paid off and that is that is all I can say about that. Bella, Mom, Mackenzie – you and I feel like we all cried at some point or another throughout the day Bella I don’t know if she cried at all I think if anything she was so incredibly happy and excited the whole day like constant smile on her face my mom of course cried she try been and give her gift she cried and I was walking down the aisle my sister did they also cried like so in the video which you might see I read the letter that Anthony gave me the day up so we did exchange letters and everyone in the room was crying man all my bridesmaids my mom my dad were in the room and they were all tearing up and crying and I was crying too I don’t think the Anthony read my letter on camera like I think well he read my letter but didn’t read it out loud but I read his out loud we were kind of like back and forth on if we wanted to read it out loud and I kind of wish that he did but the videographer like I told him that I didn’t want him to and then by the time the videographer got to me to read it I was like I guess I’ll read it out loud so we do have Anthony’s letter that I read on camera in St. Paul MN.
Question 7: What song did you walk down the aisle to?
In our ceremony we had all instrumental music playing and I will share with you guys some of our music in the description I’ll also share what our first dance was the song I danced to my dad with you guys will see a lot of that in the videos to come but I will share it with you guys if you’re interested. So, I walked to Ed Sheeran perfect, but it was instrumental by Daniel Jiang and it was a violin and then Anthony walked into flashlights which was it’s by Jessie J but instrumental Brooklyn duo.
My bridal party with the parents walked into Brooklyn duo again which is like a piano and cello theirs was love me like you do by Elie Goulding and I love that song but yeah I walked to perfect they walk to love me like you do but again it was all instrumental. You guys can check them out and I also have I believe I have like my “wedding music St. Paul” playlist on Spotify if you want to check that out as well.
Question 8: What is something you really appreciated your bridesmaids doing the day of?
Little things I would just say like making sure that like I had water that I you know felt okay if I needed any food also like reapplying my lipstick or like my lip gloss making sure they had that on hand because I didn’t carry around a purse. I know a lot of people are asking that as well like did you carry a little purse did you carry something the day up I didn’t carry anything it’s also I also couldn’t carry tissues or anything like in my dress because I know like I could have put it washed I couldn’t put it in mine because mine actually. I had a Minnesota wedding neckline so there was like kind of like a netting I don’t know what you would call it but it’s like an incredible St. Paul Mn wedding planner style neckline. So there’s no way that I could have hid tissues or anything unless I put them in my flowers but yeah they kind of were just they’re like touching things up for me asking if I needed anything it’s just the little things you know like you’re so like in the moment not thinking about a lot so the fact that they’re like hey Meg what do you need do you need anything do you need water do you need this.
That helped a lot and also retouching on my lips making sure that like my hair looked okay my dress looked okay in the pictures Mackenzie my sister was there like readjusting my dress that’s one thing like for your maid of honor or whoever’s closest to you and like the pictures make sure that they are there to adjust your dress. Sometimes your photographer will do it for you but it does help to have your girls just on hand and know to like fix your dress fix your train for your pictures but again like for your photographers and stuff usually that will do that for you but during the ceremony I know my sister like held my flowers and was fixing my dress anytime that I was like walking or came back to the altar I would just say leave little things I got making sure that I was okay and I looked on point.
Question 9: Said did you use a planner to plan your wedding? If so, could you mention where you got it?
I used the Erin Condron planner they have a timeline in the planner which is mainly what I used it goes through like every single month of what you’re supposed to be getting done leading up to the wedding and it goes by months. Also the week of the wedding like to dues but you can honestly find those things like on Pinterest I did not use the Erin Condron planner throughout like the whole year as a regular planner I just use it for like the back of it I used it to budget and it has some really great tips and like pages in the back for the planning process and the timeline so that really did help me that is the one that I used but I know there’s a law in the market. But I would actually recommend making your own Bujo which I teach you here.
Question 10: What was your first end song?
Dan Che dan + Shay is like our favorite band in St. Paul Mn right now. We saw them in concert with the Rascal Flatts. We thought we fell in love with like both their albums we are obsessed with all their songs great country band and in tequila. If you guys know that song, we also love speechless which is another song that was played at our wedding is a dedication song. So, Anthony Simon to me I was like in a chair in the middle of dance floor and he did like a dedication song to me it was so sweet you guys will have to wait to see that cried my eyes out.
Question 11: Do you prefer a venue that’s all-inclusive comes with catering, flowers, etc. or pick your own? Also was your venue all-inclusive or did you have to hire separately?
So, the only thing that was included with our venue was of course the catering or the food drinks, but our cake was included in the package for our venue that was the only thing that was included as far as the florals that was separate. The deejay that was separate and calligraphy that was separate, hair, makeup photography, videography all a separate so yeah, the only thing. I was included was the cake I don’t know if I would prefer one or the other. I feel like you should just do your research on you know florals and different things like that because you might end up with something that you don’t like if everything’s all included. I think it’s hard to have a venue where everything’s included because kind of like you get what you get you know like you can do your research with wedding vendors in Minnesota and really shop around if it’s not included.
Question 12: Did you set a goal weight for your wedding? If so, what helped you?
I did reach my goal weight the week of the wedding, but I lost like the extra three I lost the extra three pounds that I wanted to.
I had some not-so-great dress fittings and it was a little bit nerve-wracking. I noticed that the day of the wedding that my dress didn’t fit like super snug in like the stomach area which was the area that she kind of took it out a little bit. So originally she took it in too much and it was too tight and then she took it out for my third fitting I noticed that I think because I love a little bit extra weight that’s in a lot and a lot of this is like inevitable especially with my type of dress with a material and all of the fabric that I had and a lot of my pictures or like videos I noticed that like my fabric kind of scrunched or like Rouge a little bit in my stomach area which really frustrated me.
That was the only thing that I feel like I was upset about as far as like the way that I like looked and of course I wasn’t so happy about my overall like appearance as far as my body we all have insecurities do I wish that I lost an extra like 5-10 pounds of course like we all feel like that we all feel like we should lose weight and look you know look a certain way looking back I almost kind of wish that I looked more for a dress I’ll tell you one thing when the seamstress was doing my dress. She did tell me that most Brides now I wish that and I don’t know if the girl knew this someone would have told me this when I purchased the dress or when I was trying it on the same shirts did say that every bride that has had my specific dress that I had hasn’t been that happy with it.
So that was like really kind of questionable to me it kind of like made me a little worried and I was like okay am I not going to be happy with it like what’s the problem I almost wished that I did look a little bit more. I don’t want to say that I regret I don’t want to say that I regret anything and I don’t want to say that I wasn’t happy with my dress but I do feel like I don’t know I don’t want to say anything. I want to like to say anything because like I’m happy with everything I just there was just so many issues with my dress and the fabric itself wasn’t the most comfortable like on my arms the beading.
I probably could have had a little bit more of a more comfortable lace I mean it was gorgeous I just the way that it fit me again like the way it kind of like scrunched up on my stomach from moving which again I feel like it’s kind of inevitable it’s going to I know what’s going to happen because the fabrics moving as you’re walking the good thing was is that I hate a lot of that with my florals so like my florals were in front of like my stomach area majority of my pictures.
So I hate a lot of that but when I didn’t have my florals in front of me I just didn’t love the way that it looked in the front that could just be me being super critical and like very picky again it was gorgeous and I wouldn’t necessarily say I wouldn’t change anything but like looking back I kind of wish that I shopped a little bit more I only went to one place and do I think I could have had a better fitting dress probably but I was still like happy with it and I loved it.
So yeah I’m still weird about my dress just because of all the stuff that I had to go through and again just the way that it fit me not every angle looks the best multiple pictures that I don’t like at all you know the way that I looked in my dress but there’s also ones that I like the way I look so I think it’s just at no and I was talking about my dress I’ve literally talked so much about it on my blog channel and you guys were always sick of hearing it. Oh my god that wasn’t even about my dress it was about my goal weight and it turned into that, but this is going to be literally the longest video ever.
Question 13: I want to know more about your sweetheart table, the purpose and how it went for you guys?
We really enjoyed that it was nice to have like our separate table of just for us. We just had time to like talk and kind of soak everything in and it was honestly nice to just like sit there in silence and just like a look around the room. If I could give any Brides one piece of advice like the biggest piece of advice is and I’m telling a lot of my friends this too that are having weddings this year take moments a lot of people have told me this too and we did that like I don’t look back and think like oh I wish that I just like took a moment to like I don’t even think about that because I did do that we both did we took moments throughout the day throughout the night to just look around and soak everything in.
Question 14: What was the most stressful part I would say as far as the planning and everything for the wedding?
A lot of it was like kind of family related I would say like I just feel like again it’s kind of goes back to like pleasing people and making everyone happy. I have to say that blending families isn’t always easy it ended up being so great and we were so happy that we had all the family that we did at our wedding from both sides. I would say that like planning a wedding and I was just talking to my mom about this the other day but planning the wedding brings out different sides in people and this is not like talking specifically about anyone. I’m just saying just in general if you are planning a wedding you know what I mean because every bride that I talked to when I do weddings for like hair and makeup Brides will like vent to me about their friends or family or brought a party or whoever you know feeling some type of way or acting out or causing drama.
I feel like that is the biggest thing like planning a wedding in minnesota does cause a lot of drama it causes some relationship issues with people again you feel like you have to please people but also keeping the back of your mind that it’s your day and it’s the way that you want it I feel like that was the most stressful honestly of course there’s like bumps along the way my dress fittings not going well you know different things with vendors but overall I feel like at the drama the issues with people blending families that is all probably what is most stressful so keep in mind when you are planning a wedding that there might be some issues with people there might be some feelings hurt there might be some emotions thrown around.
That is all I can say about that I mean like I said I don’t want to go into detail about anything but I feel like that was the most stressful was keeping everyone happy and keeping it about your day and the happiness that the wedding brings not about other things.
Question 15: Best advice for brides wanting a winter wedding in a cold climate? Would you recommend had like a faux fur?
Weddings in Minnesota can be tough because of the cold. Cold weddings in St. Paul MN can be taxing but to be honest I was not cold I feel like it was probably my dress like all the layers and like fabric that I had on and I also had sleeves. I wasn’t super cold like honestly I feel like my face was cold and maybe my feet were cold but other than that I didn’t feel that cold as far as my bridesmaids I did have a little like Shahs or like pajamas I think that’s how you say it. I could be saying it wrong but they’re little like scarf little throws I don’t know if they were super warm. But my venue in St. Paul had a ton of heaters everywhere the wedding barn in Minnesota had heaters inside, so I don’t think it was too cold in the barn and then everything else was inside.
There was only a short amount of time that we were outside doing pictures and I felt bad for my girls and of course the guys as well I mean they have suits on so it’s a little bit better but like a lot of the girls that have sleeveless dresses on you know it was a little chilly and keep in mind that you might not have the best weather in Minnesota. I mean if we had snow it would have been a whole different story we might have had to do a lot of our pictures inside and I’m glad that we got all the pictures that we did outside could we have gotten more full bridal party pictures yes.
But honestly we didn’t because of the cold so we didn’t do a first look but we got our bridal party pictures of like just the bridesmaids separately and just the groomsmen separately and after the ceremony we got like a few and I mean like a few we got a few pictures of the whole bridal party together. So the bridesmaids and the groomsmen and the bride and groom flower girl we got all of us together but we honestly only got a few pictures we did not get a lot and I was okay with that I honestly wanted to spend more time getting pictures of just me and Anthony and Bella and like get our family pictures done and what I have my whole bridal party out there in the cold they were hungry they wanted to go to St. Paul cocktail hours. We have good enough pictures you know if we have a few of the whole bridal party I’m okay with that I would rather spend more time before the Sun Goes Down that was a whole another thing.
We trying to beat the Sun going down because our ceremony was later in the day so our ceremony was at 4:00 the Sun went down at like 5:27 so we were literally on like crunch time after the ceremony to get the pictures and that we needed would I recommend it I feel like it’s for certain people guys like there are certain brides that would never get married in the Minnesota cold and would not have a bunch of wedding and there’s Brides that would like and never have a summer wedding like for it for instance for me like. I haven’t imagined having a wedding in the summer because I hate being hot and I hate sweating and being like sticky and like I would have to touch up my hair and makeup so much in the summer. I never had to do that in the winter so that was a great perk of getting married in the winter time was that I never had to worry about like my hair falling out or my makeup getting messed up but of course I had to like retouch on my lips but like I’m not sweating off my makeup and like that’s why a lot of people get married in the spring and in the fall because it’s in between being really cold and being really hot.
So in the offseason it is a little bit tricky with the weather but I honestly would recommend it I think winter weddings are stunning I think they are gorgeous and I love I love seeing winter weddings and I also love seeing weddings that are in snow like I think that that is gorgeous. I don’t know how I would have handled that walking in the snow but I think that that’s gorgeous I would recommend it but like again it’s for certain people like there’s not many people that like getting married in the cold some prefer hot / cold it’s I think personal preference.
Question 16: How did you sleep the night before?
I didn’t sleep at all. I feel like I was literally up all night long and I was sleeping with Bella because we slept over my parents’ house. A lot of you guys asked did you sleep separate from Anthony the night before the wedding and yes, we did. Anthony slept here at our house and I slept over at my parents’ house we need to just start or like I guess the makeup girl in the hair girl we’re coming around like 7:30 8:00 in the morning and I needed to make sure I was up at like 7:00 to get things ready and set up for everyone. So, I wanted to just be over my parents’ house and, we wanted to sleep separately so it just worked out. I went and sleept over there with Bella and Bella slept great. I did not sleep at all I was so like nervous my stomach hurt all night long.
I feel like I didn’t sleep at all, but it was fine because I wasn’t that tired in the morning. I literally just got up. I think I was up at like 6:30 and I was just ready for the day. I just wanted to get the day started and you’re just your adrenaline and your nerves and stuff. You’re just so anxious the day of that I kind of just catch a second wind and you’re just like you know overwhelmed with everything that you don’t even think about like sleep or that you’re tired.
Question 17: Who is the designer of your wedding dress?
My dress was Martina Liana and I can share with you guys a style number if you’re interested. My shoes were from Badgley Mischka and all my Prada party shoes were from Badgley Mischka. They sent us all over shoes and they were so stunning. I wore Badgley Mischka shoes for my bridal shower I also wore some for my rehearsal dinner. They are all gorgeous I’m going to treasure him forever. I love my shoes they weren’t the most comfortable things, but I did wear them like all throughout the night I wore slippers for the reception as well for my first dance. I wore my heels for all my dances they were the heels, but I did change into slippers throughout the night. And you know that was, but my shoes didn’t hurt that much
Question 18: What was your favorite part besides getting married? Anything funny happen?
I saw this and I was thinking something funny did happen as something else I guess went wrong and I didn’t even think about this because it wasn’t like something that went wrong on our side, it was the guys. So, Anthony’s brother traveled from Arizona and when they were getting dressed like getting their pictures taken and getting dressed, he realized that he didn’t have his white shirt. So, the pictures were a little bit delayed and he had to literally drive down to Kohls and get a white button-down shirt so that was another thing that kind of like went wrong. I cut him some slack because we actually heard from the photographer she was like someone forgot their shirt so we’re a little bit delayed and I was like who the heck forgot what they heard that it was his brother I was like okay. I was like oh I’ll cut him some slack he traveled with three kids from Arizona. I was like every it’s fine but that was one other thing that went wrong make sure all your bridal party has everything they need the day of. I sent out like mass text all my bridal party I was like make sure you guys have this make sure you have that don’t forget this make sure you have all your money in an envelope like I was like that was on top of it all.
Question 19: Who coordinated your wedding on the day of? Did the venue provide a coordinator?
Yes, I did say this before they did have two people on hand for us the day of. They did everything for us they were amazing, and I couldn’t have done it without them. I didn’t even need to hire day of coordinator and that’s something that you should ask with your venue if you will have people there for you the day of to walk you through the day. They were there for us through everything so super helpful and I need anyone because I had them so you can.
Question 20: What do you wish you knew while planning your wedding that you know now?
I would say the biggest thing is and everyone tells you this over and over again and it’s so true and you have to listen to them because and I feel like I kind of said it before but your wedding day will be spectacular. It will be amazing and don’t think anything otherwise I feel like throughout the planning process you’re just so worried about every little thing and you want it all to be perfect even though perfect doesn’t exist.
But really though I feel like my wedding day was perfect the way it was. even the ups and downs the thing that went wrong I was okay with it. All that mattered to me was the love that me and Anthony shared that day and continued to share we were literally on cloud nine right now that was the biggest thing for us. We just honestly can’t get over how we felt the day of and just how amazing the whole day was. It was truly magical, and I feel like my hard work paid off I feel like everything. All the planning all the stress the blood sweat and tears it was all worth it in the end and no matter what your day will be amazing you will be the happiest you’ve ever been hopefully. I didn’t think about anything else I didn’t think about how everything looked you know besides the florals getting messed up I didn’t care about any of that. All I cared about was enjoying that day with my husband. Looking back so many people told me no matter what everything will be perfect, no matter what it’ll all be great and I just kept thinking like no, everything needs to be like this and I need to have this and I need to order this and I need to make sure this vendor knows this like it’s all you’re thinking leading up to the day of. But I am telling you right now the day will be imperfectly perfect it will be spectacular magical. I think that’s it I don’t know what else to say other than I had the most amazing day ever our wedding is something we’ll remember for a lifetime and I can’t wait for this next chapter.
But most of all, I wish I knew someone who knew what they were doing. Not a normal wedding planner in St. Paul who just wants to make money, but a wedding helper in Minnesota. That is why I started this blog to help plan your wedding in Minnesota. Stay tuned for more posts!